OK, i’m just going to take a moment to be honest here. This isn’t my favorite thing to talk about. Because I dont like to admit that i’m human, but its true.
I’m not a big fan of labeling myself. I’ve been diagnosed with OCD, anxiety, bi-polar disorder, i have a rare type A personality, bla bla bla bla. Those are just labels that give people something to blame when they have bad days.
Bad Days? I have them too.
Days where i’m just off. And it isn’t just one rough day then its done and i move on.
No, that would be too simple.
For me, i slowly start having worse and worse days until one day i finally lose control of my emotions and have some form of mental break down. (this is the bi-polar depressive stage.)
I’ve had many years of learning how to deal with this. I found things that work and don’t work. What helps, what doesn’t.
What i want is to help any one out there, who has bad days. I never want anyone to feel the way i do on the bad days. I wouldn’t wish those feelings on my worst enemy. Below are the things i do to get me through the bad days.
Find a comfortable, quiet place in your home. You can sit or lie down, just make sure you are comfortable and free from distractions.
There is really no wrong way to practice meditation
There are two different ways i go about meditating
The first one, i refer to as “Do Nothing Time”
I literally sit in my room and do nothing but breathe for as long as i can. The longest I’ve gone is 10 minutes.
I sit on my bed, its the most comfortable place in the house. I let the rest of my family know that i’m dong some “Do nothing time”. Some of the kids will go outside, some will join. Just be sure to let them know you need this time free from distractions.
So i get cozy on my bed. I prefer to sit criss-cross applesauce. I’ve tried lying down before but i just fall asleep.
And just sit there. For as long as you can. Focus mostly on your breathing. If your mind starts to wonder, bring it back. Avoid looking at your phone or checking the time.
If a noise in the distance distracts you, just bring your focus back to your breathing. Breath nice, long, slow, deep breathes. In through your nose, out through your mouth.
Clear your mind as much as possible. (Its easier said than done).
As my partner always says, just be where your feet are.
Just try, even if you only make it two minutes. As long as you try.
My second way of meditation is by listening to guided meditation videos on you-tube
I usually do this before bed or during chill time.
There are so many options for guided meditation on you-tube its crazy.
You might have to listen to a few different styles before find the right one for you.
I’m also a fan of ASMR videos. Anyhow,
Again, you’ll want to make sure you are somewhere comfortable and free from distractions.
For the best experience possible, i highly recommend noise canceling earbuds. You’ll spend a couple extra bucks to get the good ones, but in my mind, you can’t put a price on taking care of your mental health.
One of the hardest things to do is to get moving when you are in a depressive state of mind. But it is the exact thing you need to do to fight back.
Those little monesters are knawing away at your brain. They have a way of telling you to take a nap, do nothing. Don’t listen to them.
Get up and get moving to fight back against the little monsters.
When the weight of the world is on your shoulders, do squats.
You don’t have to lift weights, or go to the gym. Heck, you don’t even have to leave the house!
Just do something.
Go for a walk, wash the dishes by hand, sweep the floor, laundry. Do a few push ups. Wrench on the truck a bit. Brush your dog.
Healthy body, healthy mind.
Greasey junk food might sound good right now, but its not the best thing for you (or your mind) in the long run.
I’m defiantly a stress eater. When i have a bad day, its hard to pull myself away from eating a whole bag of chips for lunch rather than eating a salad.
My trick is to eliminate junk food around me as much as possible.
I also allow myself small portions of the junk food that I’m craving. A small piece of chocolate, a little bowl of chips.
Junk food is alright if you eat it in moderation.
Make healthy food more convenient. Stock up on fresh fruits and veggies.
Stick to your meal plan. (Check out this post for tips on meal planning)
Do something you enjoy
Do you have a hobby that you haven’t done in a while?
Or maybe you’ve been wanting to try something new but haven’t gotten around to doing it yet.
Work, chores, kids, family life. Sometimes it has its way of holding you back from doing things that YOU truly enjoy.
Bad days are great days to try something new or to pick up an old hobby.
Pick up that book that you put down a while ago. Do some painting. Don’t know how to paint but want to? Watch some Bob Ross or attend a painting class. Writing, singing, lifting weights, walking the dog. There are sooooo many options. You really cant go wrong with it.
Creative outlets are a great way to get through the tough times.
I do a little creative outlet every morning to get me going, my make up. Yes, I LOVE doing makeup. There’s just something about trying different colors and techniques that sings to my soul.
And of course, I love to write as a creative outlet.
Spirituality and Religion
I am not a very religious person but I do respect those who are. I am not here to preach to you or tell you “You need Jesus.”
A year ago today, I experience the worst day of my life. I’m not going to get into all the details right now, but it was traumatic for me.
I started going down a bad path and a few month after i realized i needed to make a change.
Thankfully, I have a wonderful friend who has always been a strong Christian. I went to her and realized that her religion and spirituality got her through a lot of tough times.
Although, Christianity wasn’t my route. She inspired me to find something that worked for me.
That’s where i started practicing Buddhist methods. And its worked for me.
I wear Buddha bracelets as a reminder to maintain peace in my mind.
But you have to find what works for you.
When all else fails, call your Mom.
Or a trusted friend you can count on.
Being able to talk about your feeling and get them out in the open, helps get them out of your head.
Pick up the phone, call your friend. Maybe even meet up.
Cry it out. Laugh it out. Give and get so many hugs.
Being able to confined in some one will help you through the bad days.
Listen to motivational speeches
I try to listen to speeches every morning on my way to work.
They are uplifting and make me feel powerful. There are so many to choose from on youtube.
Motivational speeches have a way of planting a seed in your mind. A good seed. A seed of positive thought. That seed will grow if you take care of it. You take care of it by focusing on it.
If you focus on the negative thoughts, that negativity will grow.
As you focus on the seed of positive thoughts, it grows. Pushing the negative thoughts out of the way. It will help push the negative thoughts out of your head.
Random Acts of Kindness
When you are feeling blue, a great way to lift your spirits is to do something kind for some one else.
Being kind to some one, give you the opportunity to strengthen a bond. The receiver of the kind act often feels grateful. Theres a good chance you will share a smile with said person. In which, will give you a nice little mood boost.
There are so many simple things you can do to be kind to some one. Write a nice letter for a family member. Put in some volunteer work. Bring your sister flowers.
Human brains are wired in such a way that doing random acts of kindness give us a warm glow. Its always a rewarding thing to do.
Take a Mental Health Day
Every body needs a day off. And i mean a day off from everything. A day off from work, chores, being taxi mom.
A day to just chill and do things that make you happy.
Now, the best way to go about a Mental Health Day is to schedule it.
I completely understand if its so bad that you just have to call in to work. It happens. But doing so could lead to more stress in your life.
You won’t get paid for that day. There’s a chance you could get behind on bills. You’ll have the day off in a house where the chores aren’t done. You’ll still have to run kids around and cook supper, yada, yada.
In order to get the most out of a mental health day is to schedule it ahead of time.
You’ll want to prepare for it.
Get the chores done around the house the night before.
Set up someone to pick up the kids.
Have supper ready in the crock pot, or even have your partner take the kids out for supper.
When you have all of those things prepare, make sure you set up an idea of what you want to do with your mental health day.
Sure, laying on the couch watching soaps all day is desirable, but it won’t help you recharge as much.
Plan on working on your creative outlets, meditation, exercise and such things. (A small nap is alright)
Just make sure to use the time to take care of yourself. (If you need more ideas on self-care, check out this post)
Remeber: Bad days happen. We are all only human and are doing our best to be our best. No Body is perfect.
If you have any questions, or need any help, don’t hesitate to get ahold of me.
Either via email firstname.lastname@example.org.
Or you can always leave a comment below.
‘Till next time,